Relationship Magic: The Heart Coherence Technique

This simple, yet profound, 3-step exercise has the ability to directly affect your loved one’s heart, brain, and perhaps even their behavior. How? The new science of neurocardiology proves that the heart is more than just an organ pumping blood. It’s actually a brain with its own set of neurons and nervous system. In fact, the heart’s electrical field is about 60x stronger than the cranial brain’s, and the heart’s magnetic field is more than 5,000x stronger than the brain in our noggin. The heart’s electromagnetic field—by far the most powerful rhythmic field produced by the human body—has the ability to extend out in all directions into the space around us. This is why we feel drained by another’s negative energy or energized by those who emit positive emotions. It’s also why a parent who practices remaining calm can instantly soothe a crying baby. That baby is sensing their parent’s coherent heart energy through a process called heart-to-heart synchronization. This cardiac field can be measured several feet away from the body by sensitive devices. It is real! So, when it comes to our relationships, this invisible force can act as an important carrier of information and an almost magical influencer. Most of us believe the false notion that the way to change our relationships is to try to change our loved one through coercion or even persistent prodding (aka, nagging). What if it could be easier? Science says it CAN be by purposefully practicing The Heart Coherence Technique, a well-researched process created by The Heartmath Institute. Practice this technique each morning for 2 minutes to drastically improve relationship health.

• Step 1: Heart Focus

   Close your eyes and gently focus your attention on the area of your heart. Put your hand over your heart to increase the flow of oxytocin (the love hormone). If your mind wanders out of habit, just keep shifting your attention back to the area of your heart.

• Step 2: Heart Breathing

   As you focus on your heart, pretend your breath is flowing in and out of that area. This helps synchronize your respiration and heart rhythms. Breathe slowly and gently, until your breathing feels smooth and balanced, not forced. Continue to breathe (through your heart) with ease until you find a natural inner rhythm that feels good to you.

• Step 3: Heart Feeling

   If you are secretly aiming to influence a relationship, recall a positive memory about your loved one. Practice amplifying gratitude around as many positive thoughts regarding your chosen individual. Your power resides in pairing a positive emotion with each positive thought. Feel it in the heart while you simultaneously visualize the new relationship you desire. Bring a sense of anticipation and excitement to the process.

Make this powerful technique a habit, practice it often, and watch the magic soon manifest in your relationship! You have the power to not only create the healthy relationships you desire but to transform all aspects of your mind, body, and spirit. I am honored to empower clients with tools and techniques like this and to watch the freedom and joy that comes from learning how to create the life you desire.